I don't feel that he is someone that I want to be with forever. I know he can tell I'm not in love with him and I think he thinks he's in love with me ( told me he loved me only after 3 weeks of dating, should've been my first red flag there) anywho we don't really fight a lot and are mostly very friendly around eachother and really do try to make it work but when he gets in his moods I just can't he got drunk one night and almost ran us off the road after telling me he was fine ( he really was acting completely fine) then when I screamed due to being terifed he yelled at me, took away my phone and told me to get out of the house , which I did. He has been nothing but supportive, but I do not love him. In fact, before we found out I was pregnant (which was completely unplanned) I was thinking of breaking up with him. Accept That You Will Never Be First. It wasn't ideal but eventually I got a better job and bought myself a nice car. Being in a loveless relationship is not a good example for the LO you already have and the one on the way. This is why friends with benefits is never a good idea. So family pressured us to get married. If I do something to hurt their father then im hurting my children because they love him. Right now her parents are planning to bring her over to my house. In some cases it works, but for many it doesn't. I hope you find what you're looking for. But the decision that you take will not only have an impact in your life, but in others people's life too. LoveDevani is an independent website. Also my ex is unlikely to have children which in her case actually doesn't matter to me. DO YOU WANT TO CHILD TO HAVE A MESSED UP UPBRINGING LIKE YOU DID? My father married my mother when she became pregnant times were different then of course. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. He's not in love so he's selfish??? the guy might turn into a psychopath and malevolent towards the girl.he would also probably turn into a serial cheater and wife beater which is usually what happens. Can't and haven't said a word to anyone about how i feel. JP friend, thanks for taking the time to read my post and offer your advise. go and apologise. Don't feel guilty if you're not in a constant state of love and bliss when you have a new baby. An increasing number of South Korean women are choosing not to marry, not to have children, and not even to have relationships with men. IS THAT WHAT SHE/HER DESERVES A GARANTEED **** UP ENVRIOMENT? The end result was the same my siblings and I had the worse upbringing. Man and woman making love in bed. Nobody really knows what to expect when having a baby, but it does change everything, even if you're determined it won't. Some people may view the prospect of that change as scary and they may doubt their parental skills." There is very little physical attraction. THE CHILD WILL HAVE MOTHER AND FATHER TOGETHER. I would rather someone abort a child they don't want than to have the child and it end up neglected and in the system as it got older. They had to do it because the marriage was arranged or demanded, as their families saw them as a burden and financial responsibility to be passed on to a man who was willing to take her off their hands. It would feel odd. THEN, MAYBE THEY BREAK UP CUZ THEY CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. Don't create a situation where you are stuck and can be controlled like that. I sacraficed my needs for them. Have you told him you're pregnant yet? On top of that, my age (early forties) scared me into accepting the situation thinking that i am too old to start all over again and wasting more time. Man up and take care of your kid, but UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES can you let her, or her family, or your family guilt trip you into "doing the right thing" and marrying her. Group Leaders communicate with staff moderators and escalate potential violations for review, but they dont moderate discussions. He's provided for me financially, has given me a house and a car, and is really into being a father. My eldest is 3 then one nearly 2 and one due any time, we dont fight too much but dont love each other, dont even like each other, I just dont want the kids not to have family days and stuff? Either stay or get off the pot but be careful how you play this. In the workplace, women with youthful faces are often more successfuland make solid leaders.On the other hand, though, some baby-faced women get passed overfor challenging tasks and leadership roles. the most helpful and trustworthy pregnancy and parenting information. He's controlling you since you are 100% dependent on him. I've been with my boyfriend for years and I still don't know if I love him. I was in the same boat. And beware if your list of reasons is merely a hollow echo of your partner's. 3. The #1 app for tracking pregnancy and baby growth. Having a baby is a life-changing experience and many want to ensure they do it at a time that is right for them. You don't even love him. Will the feeling of disconnection to this baby ever go away? She doesn't want an abortion, and I know it sounds terrible but I keep hoping she will miscarry, however she is 16weeks gone and that's unlikely . I need advice too. We made it to 8yrs. . Know his concern about the current situation and discuss. What kept us together is our deep friendship and and our ability to communicate. Grown apart and have no interest in each others lives! ( though I don't see the first one as a mistake because making babies should not be a mistake.it is the natural order of things).you cant force people to do things out of their wishes and desires. I didn't want to end up starting a family in my 50s. What to Expect supports Group Black and its mission to increase greater diversity in media voices and media ownership. I want to leave my 4 months pregnant girlfriend !! It was required that women felt their decreased desire was significantly lower than that of their partner's. The authors interviewed 15 women between the ages of 25 and 59. I unfortunately love my ex I have tried to forgets my ex but I can't. What to Expect has thousands of open discussions happening each day. How can you discuss your thoughts with her in a healthy way? We only dated for three months before I got pregnant. what is de main reason why u do not love her?? Adoption is for some people who want to unselfishly make sure the child is cared for and loved by people who can support it just like toughing it out and having the child, supporting it, and loving it is for others. maybe take a pre-marital class and figure out some common ground to build a relationship on Nine years ago I was mad in love with my first boyfriend. Men don't have a biological clock in the same sense as women. Its been almost 5yrs. You are right it is not fair to her. Its best to rip the band-aid off now instead of living a miserable life indefinitely. My kids are doing good. The Stages of Wanting to Have a Baby, by Age From being adorably clueless to using all the condoms to #MomLife. A Group Leader is a What to Expect community member who has been selected by our staff to help maintain a positive, supportive tone within a group. Not that it matters - if you have feelings for someone else, you can't be in love with your gf so sounds like leaving is the right decision, as staying together for a child with someone you don't love never works out in the long run. Suck it up because you didn't do her any favours having to live with you either. She is 6 months pregnant now. Being in a lo. Sooner or later it'll be over. Features: Kris Fluffy named herself aptly - "fluffy" because she says she doesn't shave a single hair on her body. My youngest doesn't really remember anything. Group Black's collective includes Essence, The Shade Room and Naturally Curly. You're a dude she just met, maybe at a bar, maybe on a dating site. There are many things that may cause a broken heart. Moreland told me, "Some moms have that immediate, overwhelming, love-at-first-sight feeling with their newborns; others don't. And that's okay. It was very stressful. We found out. Learn more about, Realizing I Had PPD After Returning to Work as a Soldier in the U.S. Army, Planned c section too presumptuous??? By Kate Spencer Published: Apr 27, 2016 UNIVERSAL PICTURES | LAYNEELU/IMGUR AGE 6 I. Rightfully so! Be responsible of your act and decision on something. My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. 15) His biological clock is ticking. I know life would be so much easier if we were together, but I don't know if it's worth it. Where are you from? IF YOU BOTH DECIDED TO STAY IN A LOVELESS RELATIONSHIP. A Group Owner is a member that has initiated the creation of a group to connect with other members to share their journey through the same pregnancy & baby stages. We've been together 9. I had been seeing the guy (now DH) exclusively since August of 2011. They finally divorced when I was 19. Start off by talking about your family, how you're feeling about work and home in general, and your love for your wife. Next time, WATCH BEFORE YOU LEAP, U see how some guys end up sleeping with gurls dey do not love?? It is normal to want to lay your head on your mother's breast and feel the security and warmth of her love and compassion. Remember, the decision you make will decide whether you will be happy or not in the near future. ISNT THAT WHAT WE ALL WANT? After all, a 70-year-old guy can still have kids. It's the kind of care for your emotions, feelings, and love. You will love that baby no matter what when it gets here! He's not all bad. To begin, the average cost of vaginal delivery in the US, with health insurance, is $4,300. It originally aired on the Fox network in the United States on January 22, 1995. Does anyone relate? I got pregnant in September of 2011. It doesn't, does it? And one of the problems is the appearance of a question having a baby with someone you don't want to be with, how to deal with it? I am wondering if i can and how i can win my ex back. Second, if she were to make that decision previously to have an abortion for whatever reason you are not someone whose opinion matters since you're on an Internet forum and you don't know the personal lives of anyone on here enough to dictate that they should never have an abortion. You're sort of talking like you want a sugar daddy. The educational health content on What To Expect is reviewed by our medical review board and team of experts to be up-to-date and in line with the latest evidence-based medical information and accepted health guidelines, including the medically reviewed What to Expect books by Heidi Murkoff. How can I believe I fathered the child if she's been unfaithful ? If it gets closer to your due date though, and you feel like nothing's changed, I do think it'd be a good idea to consider adoption.